The Story of a Premature Baby, The First Weeks

Being a mother and father when you are prepared is a laborious job, but you can learn to overcome it by bringing out the best of both, getting used to the job of being a parent, while you prepare the way for better future interactions. Not only because your baby needs to feel confident, but also so that you can grow. As you go learning the particular language your baby speaks in order to communicate, the way he or she behaves, cries, yells, sucks, along with many other signs, you will start to feel stronger.

Another objective of this particular site is to teach parents of premature babies how to for example, change the baby’s diaper while he or she is inside incubator, securing the positive aspects in the encounters, or in how to feed your baby, making sure he or she adapts with confidence as soon as the baby is able to suck, even knowing how important it is for the safety of the baby that he or she is touched in a special way, or the way you should speak to him when you have him or her curled up on your chest, although invariably your work will consist on adapting each one of these resources to the necessities of your baby.

Simply because the baby, besides the medical care and the food he or she requires of, what they need in order to survive is physical and emotional contact, and what better way to do that than turning it into something that will also help us overcome the anguish of the separation. 

Don’t forget that in the baby’s calendar of necessities, being next to you will be the high priority during next eighteen months of the baby’s life.

The fact that your child came to the picture in advance is not motivation so that your and your partner stop using the resources that are within your reach in order to overcome satisfactorily many present and future stages. Start right now to transmit to your partner your stability, security, trust, affection and protection, how you ask? Well, to begin with, making sure your partner does not become resentful during this period of the separation. For example why don't you reserve today one hour to speak about your feelings, doubts and ambiguities? Everything that you feel is absolutely normal! Don't create trials over your feelings. The perfect person doesn't exist, nor the perfect parents, nor the perfect son or daughter. Think about this: as much as you are yourselves, the better you will be able to differentiate your emotions of the reality. As happens to most of the limit situations. When we enter something like this not knowing, fearful or uncertain, our ideas and the interpretation that condition us, and even more so when they are not compared with any other point of reference.

If at any moment you become invaded with sadness, you start to cry, feel impotent, talk about it; if it difficult for you to feel depressed about the separation, try to do something for your baby, such as painting the baby’s room, build a colorful mobile, or do some clothes shopping such as socks and mittens so you can take to him or her next time you go to see the baby. Why should you do this? Because it’s your baby you’re talking about, who came into this world so quickly and without notice.