What Is The Best Attitude To Relate Well With Your Baby?

Almost all the mothers and fathers of premature babies agree that our babies do not transmit their needs to us very clearly, and we know that often times, this causes us a little bit of worry and uncertainty about what to do. It is possible that in an attempt to try to calm your baby, your baby might react excessively irritated, with successive crying spells commonly caused by insignificant stimulus. While you are with your baby, one fundamental rule in this aspect is that when you see that the baby is uneasy you try to:

• Understand the signs he or she is transmitting
• Give the baby what he or she needs in that moment
• Protect the baby from becoming excited

During the months that my daughter Andrea was in the neonatal intensive care unit, I saw a lot of fathers and mothers hurry to grab their baby out of the incubator and take the baby up to the window so that the family outside could see the little one, with an anxious attitude hoping to get approval from the family.

In the same way, I saw cases in which after a baby had gone through a severe health problem, and when the baby was finally well and could get out of the incubator, the parents automatically kissed the baby enthusiastically and passed the baby from one set of arms to another, without realizing that this is probably not what the baby wanted.

When this type of thing happened, if the nurses or personnel went up to the family to suggest giving the baby some space, the face of the baby’s family members would turn into a “Stop intruding” look, when in reality all the family was doing at that time was satisfying their own needs rather than thinking about the baby’s needs.

And this is because your baby will not only react to metabolic changes or to infections, but also to your changes of moods, meaning that any anxious emotional attitude might influence on the baby in an unfavorable way.

If the baby is very excited, you will need to find out which are the signs he or she uses to transmit that he or she does not want more stimulus. In order to find this out, you will need to observe the position your baby’s body is in, the expression on the baby’s face, the color of the skin, the tension and rigidity in some parts of the baby’s body such as the hands and feet.